ok, sure, i guess theres nothing wrong with “hating your oppressors,” but if hating your oppressors means treating 50% of the people around you like human garbage cuz of something they cant help, then youre being kind of an asshole
like, being guarded or gruff around certain people is one thing. im not asking you to get on your knees and roll around like a dog for everyone who says hi to you. put up your walls, protect yourself, dont put yourself in dangerous situations.
but if you start calling people names at no provocation, or going around harrassing people, or sending death threats or suicide baits, youre not, like, being an activist. youre just being a bully, and youve decided the acceptable targets are the one for whom your ire is “justified”
you are in fact doing the opposite of activism. change is made through relationships; it’s about people and community. it’s about the power of connections with, and connecting with, those people.
you don’t have to connect with everyone like that- and in fact sometimes it is anywhere from useless (they won’t listen to someone like you) to dangerous (they will hurt someone like you)- but actively ostracizing every single person you come across who isn’t just like you is in fact working against the formation of communities and power that can be used to enact positive change.
and you don’t have to be an activist! it’s okay if you aren’t there, and it’s okay if you need time to unpack your emotions and your trauma before you can do that kind of work, or even just get past that kind of unhealthy paranoia. just understand where you’re at for what it is. accept that what you’re dealing with is not good, it’s not okay, and it’s not the way you or anyone else should have to live.
you don’t need to be paranoid all the time, yes, even if things are sometimes legit dangerous for you. you are not hated by the entire world. there are more people who care than you know.
that’s hard to hear when you’re struggling, I know and I’ve been there, but it’s an important truth to hold: you are not the only safe, good person in the world. you are not uniquely correct. other people have good ideas, and good intentions, and they’re worth listening to.
take care of yourself. seek out the help & support you need. heal. grow. change. do it at your own pace, and do what you need to get there the right way and the healthy way. but do it.
For those worried about the crew having to do a whole job just for one person, flight staff only get paid for time they’re in the air; if he’d cancelled, they wouldn’t have gotten paid for zip.
So in other words, he gave them an easy day where they can spend most of it on break, and also airplane staff should unionize.
Also the plane likely has to get to NC somehow so you might as well have fun with it
I get the hesitancy to claim a label when you’re not completely sure of it yourself. This is especially prevalent in the aro and ace communities because how do you prove a negative? Maybe you will meet someone in twenty years and feel that proverbial spark. But here’s the truth: it doesn’t matter.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a phase!! You are living in this body, in this moment, in this label right now. Who you are now matters just as much as who you might be.
^ I am someone who had an ace “phase.” I was a late bloomer and I did not jive sexually or romantically with my peers growing up.
I identified as ace pretty solidly for three years, and then sort of tossed labels around for a couple more years before I came out as bisexual.
The discussions and interactions I had in the aro/ace community were very constructive and formative for me when figuring out my sexual identity; I always felt welcomed there and I was still supported by the community when I left upon realizing it wasn’t the right label for me.
Don’t be scared to try a label on for size! It might be forever, or it might be a stepping stone to something different! Either way you can use the label to learn more about yourself.
sometimes neurodivergence questions will be like ‘do you find activities more enjoyable when they are activities you enjoy’ and it really makes me wonder if this ‘neurotypical’ thing has just been a big practical joke all along
‘do you find it disruptive to your focus when your focus on a task is disrupted suddenly and without warning’ this CANNOT be diagnostic criteria. they are playing us for fools
forgot my night time garlic bread in the oven for the length of 2 mythbusters wpisodes and when i opened the oven door it was so thoroughly cremated that i was blinded not by smoke and ash but what surely must have been its Soul as well
not the coquettes literally reinventing nazi phrenology on tiktok
Yeah just a heads up. If you start judging people by bodyshape in any way I’ll kick you right in the teeth. Have fun describing someone’s face shape as inferior when your jaw is gone
I heard this metaphor growing up, and in my case, it backfired supremely, because I went out into my neighbor’s backyard where a rose bush was growing, and the one I tested had like 30 petals (it was yellow, but definitely a rose of some kind), and as a very logical lass, I came to the conclusion that you could have premarital sex AT LEAST ten times before your future husband would even notice something was up. Moral of the story? Test your metaphors on the weirdest and most neurodivergent child you know before writing your weird religious propaganda.
*has video game open* hm i dont feel like playing this right now actually *closes it* man i wish i was playing video game right now *opens it again* hm i dont feel like playing this right now actually *closes it
